How To Get Over The Feeling Of Being A Boring Person
I wish I stopped myself from posting work online.
As someone who cares for details and getting things just right, sometimes I feel what I share is just not perfect.
Deepening questions occur and self-doubt starts to loom. What if this piece is not great after all? What if someone finds this boring?
This blog post is the result of a conversation I had with my art collective.
It was about our stories. Some of us started to feel what we have to offer to the world and our general day to day life was not share-worthy. There was this fear of sounding “boring” to the outside world.
This was a problem I had to overcome and if you feel the same, that your life story is not compelling enough, you’re not alone.
Here's the thing...
People won’t know who you are if you don’t share what you’re creating. What you have to offer is unique—your story is unique.
All the bits of our lives that we share over time becomes a unique page of your book. People can witness your journey develop.
You have to realise, there will be someone who will find your story refreshing.
It’s so much more interesting (in my opinion anyway) to watch an artist or designer develop. Seeing your own improvements will give a huge boost to your confidence.
Those “magician” artists who only post final pieces of work are incredible and I’m not denying how great the work is. But having a story and showing your process adds greater depth to your personality. And believe, people will resonate with your journey.
We Should Never Downplay Our Story
I know it’s cliche, but everyone’s story is different. What you find boring about yourself, will be refreshing for someone else.
Your so-called repetitive and boring routine, could be valuable to someone who’s unorganised and needs routine.
We all go through similar routines in the day, wake up, brush teeth, eat, go to work. But how you perform everyday tasks is what makes you unique.
Within our stories, find the unique details that help you get through the day, like how you gather research for a project or what’s currently inspiring you and then, tell that story. This will be unique to someone else, no matter how much you think the opposite is true.
Without sharing your story, no one will ever know you exist.
Without sharing your story, you’re missing the opportunity to connect with someone.
I’ve struggled with this for a long time. Who am I? An east London male who graduated five years ago experiencing a massive gap between what was taught and what needs to be taught.
My circle of friends are in a similar position. But we’re all building our own personal and extraordinary story and I’m here to share the journey.
No longer do I feel that my story is “boring”. People are reading this right? And if you’ve been following me along in much of 2017, then what I’m sharing is interesting to you (or so I hope).
Trust the process, trust the journey. Enjoy the process, enjoy the journey.
Three Actions You Can Take Right Now
- Your work is a projection of your personality—embrace it and don’t be afraid to be uniquely you.
- Authenticity goes a long way. People will relate and support you through your struggles—own your weaknesses!
- Share work that’s not 100% perfect. There’s no other boost better than seeing how much you’ve improved.
And hey, I appreciate you for reading this week’s article!
I felt this was more of a pep talk than advice but either way, I hope you took away something valuable. Did you learn something new? Hit me up and let me know by tweeting me!
'Till next time.